Trauma bonding isn’t just two people connecting in shared experience and feeling a sense of solidarity. It’s also possible for us to bond with a disease and make it part of our identity. The medical establishment really likes this and encourages this lifelong attachment with being a survivor of XY or Z illness. It perpetuates the thinking that XYZ illness is still part of your life, because we survived it.
This disease bonding through proud survivor status keeps it at the forefront of your mind, like a psychopath ex-lover whispering in your ear that they will be back. I know I’m going against the grain here, but survivors of illness, dust that thing off your feet, walk through the threshold of health and well-being, and never look back. Get out of bed with your psychopathic ex-disease. Kick it to the curb and never think of it again.
When the notion of it pops into your mind, create a powerful affirmation, something like, I am healthy and free now. Each cell in my body, and every aspect of my mind and spirit are in perfect harmony. I walk into each day in joy and perfect health. And so it is.
I have known survivors who live with the fear clawing away at them that it could come back someday. Again, break up with that disease like a toxic, abusive lover. Don’t snuggle with it, wear its color, brand yourself a victim or survivor. Never look back.
Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.Philippians 3:13-14